Nothing Was Missing
A quiet morning reflection.
This morning I sat on the back porch with my coffee.
It was quiet in a way that surprised me — no birds, no breeze, nothing moving.
Just stillness.
I went out there expecting the usual — the morning birds, the movement of the air, that little sense of nature setting the tone for the day.
But none of it was there.
And a question came up in the middle of all that:
“Am I actually missing anything?”
Not was something absent, not did I get what I wanted, but… was anything truly missing?
If the morning had given me exactly what I pictured — the birds singing, the breeze, the whole scene — I probably would’ve taken it in and moved on with my day, with that subtle belief reinforced:
When I get what I want, all is good.
But since none of that was there, I had to sit with what actually was.
Just quiet.
Just stillness.
Just me and the morning.
And in that space, something simple became clear:
Nothing was missing.
Not really.
The birds would’ve been nice.
The breeze would’ve been nice.
But the lack of them didn’t take anything real away from me.
If I wanted to, I could’ve turned it into a whole story:
“The morning is off.”
“This isn’t what I hoped for.”
“Something’s missing today.”
“Why don’t I get what I want?”
I’ve done that before.
We all have.
But today the quiet showed me something different:
Before I even sat down, I already had everything I needed — more than I can put into words.
I wasn’t lacking anything.
The stillness didn’t take anything from me.
It reminded me that nothing essential was ever tied to the birds or the breeze in the first place.
What a strange, unexpected gift “nothing” is.
Sometimes the absence of what I thought I wanted gives me a chance to notice what’s already here —
what I already am —
and what I never lost to begin with.
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absolutely beautiful! thank you for this! 🩷